Lately, I have been wondering why kids seem to act out more? Child rearing has changed so much over the last few decades. Children’s ability to self regulate and control their emotions is greatly influenced by their environment. Here are 10 things that have changed over the years that can affect a child’s ability to self regulate.
3. Families eat out more often which translates into more waiting. With dual income households or single working parents, after a long day at work making dinner can be difficult. Gone are the days that dinner is on the table waiting for the kids after playing outside after school.
4. Helicopter parenting. Parents are right on top of their kids. Do this, don’t do this, share, make nice, blah blah blah (guilty as charged sometimes). Kids sometimes don’t even get a chance to make a decision. We try so hard for them to avoid conflict that when it does occur they are not ready for it.
6. Kids zone out on television or technology all day long. Years ago you could only watch children’s programming certain times per day. Otherwise, there was complete junk on tv so you turned it off. You went and found other things to do when you were bored instead of zoning out with a tablet.
7. Kids have more homework. This cycle begins at a very young age. Preschoolers have homework. Elementary school and older can have hours of homework. This makes for very little downtime in children’s lives.
8. Children have less time to learn to be independent. It is easier for parents to just do it for the kids sometimes rather than slow down and let the children do it themselves. When a toddler wants to put on his own shoes and mom/dad has to run off to work, the toddler melts down when all he/she wants to do it be independent.
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